When women hear “pelvic floor,” they usually hear one piece of advice:
Do your Kegels.
The assumption is simple.
If you're leaking, your pelvic floor must be weak.
If you're having symptoms, it must need strengthening.
So you start squeezing.
More contractions. Longer holds. More reps.
But here's the problem:
Not every pelvic-floor problem is a strength problem.
Sometimes the muscles need to get stronger.
Sometimes they need to coordinate better.
And sometimes a pelvic floor that's already doing too much needs to learn how to let go.
Your Pelvic Floor Isn't Supposed to Be “On” All the Time
Your pelvic floor is a group of muscles.
And like other muscles in your body, it needs options.
It needs to be able to generate force when the task requires it.
But it also needs to relax and lengthen.
Think about your biceps.
A strong biceps isn't one that stays contracted all day.
It's one that can produce force when you need it—and then relax when you don't.
Your pelvic floor isn't fundamentally different.
More tension doesn't automatically mean more strength.
And more contraction doesn't automatically mean better function.
What Does a Tight Pelvic Floor Feel Like?
There isn't one symptom that tells us with certainty that a pelvic floor is overactive or isn't relaxing well.
But symptoms that may show up alongside increased pelvic-floor muscle tension can include:
Pelvic pain.
Pain with intercourse or penetration.
Pain or difficulty with tampon insertion.
Difficulty starting urination.
Feeling like you haven't completely emptied your bladder or bowels.
Constipation or straining.
Urinary urgency or frequency.
And yes—sometimes even leaking.
That's one reason symptoms alone don't tell me whether someone needs strengthening.
We have to assess what's actually happening.
But How Can You Leak If Your Pelvic Floor Is Tight?
This is where pelvic health gets more nuanced than “weak muscles leak.”
Continence requires more than maximal strength.
The pelvic floor has to respond appropriately to changes in pressure and activity. It needs coordination, timing, movement, and the ability to move through a useful range.
A muscle that spends too much time in a shortened or guarded position isn't necessarily functioning optimally just because it feels “tight.”
Think about constantly shrugging your shoulders toward your ears.
Those muscles are certainly working.
That doesn't mean they're functioning well.
The same concept can apply to the pelvic floor.
Tension and strength are not the same thing.
Active Women Can Be Really Good at Bracing
This is one of the reasons I pay attention to this in athletes and women who lift.
We're often very good at creating tension.
Brace harder.
Squeeze.
Grip.
Push.
Stay tight.
Those strategies can be incredibly useful.
I am not anti-bracing.
I don't want women afraid to create pressure or tension when they're lifting something heavy.
But your body also needs to be able to move out of those strategies.
If you're gripping your abdominal wall all day, holding your breath during every difficult task, clenching your glutes, or constantly trying to “hold your pelvic floor up,” that's useful information.
The goal isn't to walk around completely relaxed either.
The goal is adaptability.
Create tension when you need it.
Release tension when you don't.
This Is Why More Kegels Aren't Always the Answer
Kegels aren't bad.
They're an exercise.
And like any exercise, whether they're useful depends on the person in front of me.
If someone has difficulty generating an effective pelvic-floor contraction and strengthening is appropriate, pelvic-floor contractions may absolutely be part of treatment.
But if someone has difficulty relaxing or lengthening the pelvic-floor muscles, repeatedly adding more contractions may not address what she actually needs.
That's why I don't love blanket advice like:
“Every woman should do Kegels.”
Every woman doesn't need the exact same exercise.
We don't treat shoulders that way.
We don't treat knees that way.
We shouldn't treat pelvic floors that way either.
Sometimes We Need to Look Outside the Pelvic Floor
This is another place where orthopedic and pelvic-health care overlap.
The pelvic floor doesn't exist in isolation.
I'm also interested in what's happening around it.
How does the hip move?
What does the trunk do?
How is she breathing?
Does she constantly brace?
Is there pain somewhere else that's causing her to guard?
What happens during the actual activity that causes symptoms?
How does her body respond as the demand increases?
Sometimes pelvic-floor-specific treatment is important.
Sometimes the larger musculoskeletal system is contributing to the presentation.
Often, we need to look at both.
That's why treating one muscle without understanding the person attached to it can miss the point.
“Relax” Doesn't Mean “Just Take Deep Breaths”
There's another oversimplification I want to avoid.
If strengthening isn't always the answer, it's tempting to swing completely in the opposite direction:
Just relax your pelvic floor.
But relaxation isn't always something you can simply decide to do.
Treatment may involve learning to recognize tension, improving pelvic-floor coordination, working on breathing and movement strategies, addressing pain, changing bladder or bowel habits, modifying aggravating activities temporarily, or working on surrounding musculoskeletal factors.
And then—depending on the person—we may still strengthen.
Because the goal isn't to create a weak, relaxed pelvic floor.
It's to create a pelvic floor that can do its job.
The Goal Is Options
This is really what I want women to understand.
Your pelvic floor isn't supposed to be maximally strong all the time.
It isn't supposed to be completely relaxed all the time either.
It needs options.
It needs to contract.
It needs to relax.
It needs to respond to breathing.
It needs to tolerate pressure.
It needs to coordinate with the rest of your body.
And if you're an athlete, it eventually needs to do all of that while you run, jump, lift, land, brace, and fatigue.
That's a much bigger goal than being good at Kegels.
The Bottom Line
If you're experiencing pelvic-floor symptoms, don't assume the answer is simply to make the muscles stronger.
And don't assume “tight” automatically tells us everything either.
Strength matters. Relaxation matters. Coordination matters. The task matters.
The right treatment depends on what your body is doing and what you're asking it to do.
Because the goal isn't the strongest pelvic floor possible.
It's a pelvic floor that can respond to your life.
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